There are times when you feel hopeless and purposeless. You start believing that this isn’t the life you want and ending the life will end all your pain. But, remember one thing dear friends, you may feel that your life is not worth living but ending this precious life is not such a good idea, in fact, it is not going to end your pain, rather it will increase others’ pain too. I often feel, how a person can simply end his life when this not so fair “life” is going wrong or lacks the convenience you have dreamt of. When this life, is just not yours completely. Don’t ruin this beautiful life that consists of a wonderful present and a positive hope of a beautiful future. If you really want to end all of your pain and worries, I think you should show some bravery, courage, and strength to hold yourself strongly. You might ask what this bravery looks like, so let me give you a short and sweet example. “Today, I believe that someone is going to call a therapist and will break the chain of pain and sufferings that have caused you so much trouble. That’s what bravery looks like. !!
You may overcome these thoughts and can tightly hug healthy diets and positive thoughts. Why can’t we talk to those people who can really support us? Communication has always been the best medicine. Talk to someone whom you completely trust in. Ask for all the help that you need. Speaking up to a reliable person has always done wonders. Suicide has never been a better ending or an apt solution to a problem, with your own efforts and dedication you can yourself change the problems into just another newest solution.
Taking action is always the best choice. What more can you do to make their situation better and better. So, start by asking various questions.
The first step is to find out whether the person is in danger of acting on suicidal feelings. Be sensitive, but ask direct questions, such as:
- How are you coping with what’s been happening in your life?
- Do you ever feel like just giving up?
- Are you thinking about dying?
- Are you thinking about hurting yourself?
- Are you thinking about suicide?
- Have you ever thought about suicide before, or tried to harm yourself before?
- Have you thought about how or when you’d do it?
- Do you have access to weapons or things that can be used as weapons to harm yourself?
These simple questions can save someone’s from ending their dreams and hopes. Offering someone an opportunity to talk to and listen to has always been the best medicine for reducing the risk of suicidal thoughts. The solution doesn’t end there.
- You can also take help from trained professional or a therapist :- They are the person who is going to handle the situation better. So, in this way you can offer the best help they require during those times.
- Don’t be patronizing or judgmental. :- Judging them at the time of such distressing moment can work as adding butter oil to the burning fire. For example, don’t tell someone, “Things could be worse” or “You have everything to live for.” Instead, ask questions such as, “What’s causing you to feel so bad?” “What would make you feel better?” or “How can I help?” These things will help the person to get over from the burden that has caused them so much pain and anxiety.
- Acknowledgement and being respectful towards their feelings is also very important. :- Show them the respect they deserve. Don’t judge them with this sudden action. Don’t try to talk the person out of his or her feelings or express shock. Remember, even though someone who’s suicidal isn’t thinking logically, the emotions are real. Not respecting how the person feels can shut down communication. They won’t open up themselves and this will be an another alarming state where helping or supporting someone becomes difficult.
- Encourage the person and offer reassurance :- When someone is suicidal , for them everything seems to be negative. They start believing nothing will ever make things better. So, encouragement and offering assurance that everything will become better with the time act as a therapeutic massage to them.
Remember, you can’t and you’re not responsible for preventing someone from taking his or her own life — but your intervention may help the person see that other options are available to stay safe and get treatment. You can change someone’s life just with your little involvement. !!
